Do you find yourself forgetting things every now and then saying to yourself “I can’t remember, I don’t know where I put it. I just don’t remember.”
Well, forgetting things every now and then is normal because there is such an inflow of information and some of the stuff doesn’t really get into your brain properly. And there is such an overflow of it and if we don’t internalize it, it’s not there, but that is very normal. I’m sure you’ve been in that situation tons of times because most people have.
Happy New Year!
It’s funny isn’t it that every new year we want to make a new start as if there is a start and the end of the issue that we have, and that life is just in the middle of it. I mean it’s just an ongoing process isn’t it?
But we, as people, we do like milestone’s and the New Year is a good time to have a milestone. I totally agree with that. I had been doing the same thing over and over again for many years until I’ve discovered that it didn’t really matter when I did my commitment for starting anew. So these days I don’t plan to do that much for New Year, instead I do it when the issue pops up and when it’s important for my life in that moment. So I have many new starts over the year instead one big new start on the 1st January, and that makes it, to me, easier to follow.
This holiday season are you more:
“Holiday season is coming up with all the fun and togetherness of meeting with friends and family. It’s going to be such a great time.”
Or holiday season is coming up..
“I feel so stressed out for all the things that I must do. I just don’t like it. I can almost say I hate it.”
Which scenario do you prefer?
Christmas season is a very hectic time for most people and for you lady business leaders it can be a double up, because you have your job to do plus looking after your employees. Of course you want them to have a nice time and that everything will be good for Christmas, but you also have to make sure all the work is completed so that all your customers are OK before the holidays start. And then you also you have your home life where you are supposed to be serving other people and usually take on all the responsibilities there. Because even in these days of supposed “equality” it is still usually the woman in the family that has the responsibility of organizing the holiday celebrations.
You want everyone to be happy because that’s how you were brought up. But you feel lonely, you feel that it’s not fun and you think “OK I’ll take things one day at a time and I will survive because soon enough it’ll be over”. Because for you it’s just survival.
But now is the time to change that.
Last week we discussed the signs and symptoms on things that can be stressful that you are not really aware of. Remember there were five hidden signs of stress?
Well today I want to go a little bit deeper into one of those signs so you can learn how to use that knowledge in your favor instead of just being stressed out.
Are you getting stressed out and not realizing that is what´s happening?
Seeing signs that you don’t realize is your stress?
It creeps up on you, slow and nasty before it then hits you when it is too late.
Stress is not all the things on your to-do list. Stress is the reaction in your body and mind when your perceived demands from the outside is contrasting with what your inner power can handle.
This shows in many different signs and symptoms that we often have a hard time to understand. And all this is spiced with feelings that are even harder to control.
Here are the 5 biggest signs to look out for that are telling you, you’re stressed out:
Have you ever had one too many glasses of wine because you’re so stressed out? Well, you’re not alone.
You know, it’s really fairly common among business leaders that they drink too much alcohol. One day when you’re stressed out you realise:
“OK that glass of wine did feel good. I felt much calmer. I felt like this is much better than taking pills because taking tranquilizers, no that’s not for me. I’m not that kind of person. I don’t eat pills.”
Today I want to talk about sleep.
You know life on earth is adapted to the rotation of our planet, and we have known for many years that we, as humans, have clocks that work with this regular cycle of the the planet turning around itself. So we have these body clocks but how does it work? That’s not something that we’ve really known. I’m from Sweden and in Sweden we have the Nobel Prize, I’m not sure you know about it but here it’s a big thing and I usually hear about it every year and there are all these prizes for scientists who’ve done things that most of us don’t understand.
Some of my clients are not sure they have the right job, they don’t feel the right connection to it and that can be very stressful. Have you ever felt like that? A disconnect?
Or maybe you are like the ones that tell me that they are perfect for the job and they really don’t know why that is either, they haven’t got the key of “What is it that makes me perfect?” or “What is it making me not like my job?”
The other day I was reminded of a guy whose name is Antonovski. He is a professor in medical sociology and he has created a term called Salutogenesis; it’s a hard word which means to look at what keeps us healthy instead of looking the other way around, the way that health care usually does where they usually are looking at what makes us ill.
I often get questions from my clients about fitness and physical activity; they get stressed out because they don’t have time to do all that fitness work that you are supposed to. At least if you listen to all the other people they feel there is a lot of “have to do” or “must do”, and they feel guilty because they don’t. Also they might not even like the fitness work. Doing things because you “have to” is not a good driving force.
It would become something you avoid for as long as possible, it becomes like a chore and it won’t benefit you. At this point you have to find ways that spark your interest and motivate you. Also if you understand what’s going on then it’s much easier to do things that you don’t really like because you feel it’s a bore but you can cope with it because you know it’s good for you. .
I know a lot of lady business leaders who are not into sports at all….
Many of my business leader clients feel that they are overweight and they want to lose a couple of kilos or pounds. They are dreaming of their perfect life with the perfect weight, the perfect dress that they’re gonna wear and their perfect stress free life that they’re going to have when they have the ideal weight.
They think about weight loss all the time and most of them have tried dieting, at least five different diets. And they get no results, they’re just bouncing up and down the scales, they are constantly hungry or they are constantly feeling bad because they are conscious of everything that they put in their mouth.
And they ask me if it’s even possible to lose weight without doing this specific type of dieting and I tell them, yes it is, but first we have to look at: