In this blog post I will continue to pick the gold out of the stress survey I recently had out there. I am so grateful for people answering and I can see in the answers that they spoke right out of their hearts.
I thought I can answer a few of them here – or at least discuss around them. Some of these issues are not solvable in the easy way but they certainly need to be discussed.
This first one is of that kind:
What can I do when the stress is not caused by me, but someone else puts me in a situation of stress? Oh my, this is a common question. I can’t control my situation! It is out of my control! My boss puts all the problems on my shoulders! My spouse puts me in this situation!
Do you know what part of life is most common to generate stress? In the online survey I recently had going I found the answer. What would you have guessed? Work? Family? Money?
I had 6 alternatives to choose from, Work Related, Health Issues, Financial, Family Related, Other Relationships and Other. I asked the participants to rank them.
The answer is that all 21 persons who answered this question had different ranks BUT when you add them all up they were all even. None of the reasons for stress is sticking its head out. I tried to figure out what this tells us.
Well, I can tell that all parts of life can cause stress and I can also tell that in stress management it is not one-size-fits-all because the causes are so different.
I recently had a survey out about stress. One of the question was about how often people were stressed out. This was not a scientific study but questions to people in my network. One interesting thing I found out is that most people didn’t say they are stressed every day but every week. 50% said every week, 25 said every day and the rest said every month or more seldom.
I would have thought that more people would say every day since that is what I hear in conversations in general, they are ALWAYS stressed out. That makes me wonder why there is a difference.
Daily I get questions about stress. Why am I feeling like this? What can I do about that? I feel my heart beat – is that dangerous? How can I get out of this stressful situation? What would you do, Dr Annika? What is stress – really? And it goes on like this………
Of course I don’t have the answers to ALL these questions. But some I can answer or reflect around and help the person feel a bit relieved. Some of the questions only the person who asks has the answer to. What I can do is to guide them towards their own answer, which is what coaching is all about.
We are well into the summer even though we don’t really feel that in Sweden. The weather has been anything but summerlike. Hopefully we will get some sun and warmth in August to give us energy, and also a dose of vitamin D, to use during the dark winter months.
Anyway – I have gathered another bunch of previous blogposts that are suitable for this time of the year – to help you get a good start of the fall when everything get going again after some summer rest.
Our sleep is everything. Sleep is life! In this post you get an easy tool to use when stress is keeping you awake.
Summer is here and it is time to take a break from the blog for a week or two. Some may call it laziness but I think it’s good to take time away to reflect on your life, your work and find your path into the future. So, why not use the summer to ponder about where you are heading? This is hard to do during the never ending rat-race that are ordinary work-weeks.
These are big life questions and, for most people, they typically need some time and fuel to think about. But, I’ve made it easy for you to get started. Here are 5 of my previous blog posts that cover a wide array of stress-related topics and they’re perfect for pondering while sitting on a dock with your feet in the water.
Here are a few habits to implement – perfect to start in the summer to be all set when fall comes.
How many times in a day do you use an internet connected device? That is a very hard question to answer – since most of us use them all the time. They are at our side around the clock, whether we work or not. We don’t use them X amount of time, they have become part of us.
So what? Is that a problem? Yes and no!
The other day I was asked, in a Facebook comment, how to avoid disturbed sleep when caused by overload. At first I was going to answer – “by looking over your sleeping habits” – but no, that is starting in the wrong end. That is treating a symptom but the “disease” is still there.
You have to start by looking at what is bugging you, what is stressing you out, right!? And to do that you need to look at the big picture.
Do you remember what metaphor I use for looking at your whole situation? I suggest you take a virtual helicopter ride over your life. You can fly around yourself and you can go down and hoover over specific areas where you see specific challenges. It can give you a good picture of the whole situation. This is what I do with all my private clients and it is just as thought-provoking every time. What will show up? Often issues that the client did not predict.
This is going to make some of you laugh out loud. That is what I did when I realized this. You know, I had a belief about something and I didn’t feel I had the time to look into it. Everyone else talked good about it so I reckon it is a good thing. But I thought it was out of my reach – and this has been going on my whole adult life. Because I heard about this all the way back when the Beatles did this. But it all seemed so oriental and so hard.
Until a month ago.
The second half of March I spent in USA.
The first four days I was attending one of my favorite business mentors Brendon Burchard´s event High Performance Academy, held in Santa Clara CA. This teaching is about personal development and in very many senses this is part of what I teach too. It is about how to find the best you, a less stressed out version of yourself. I got some good ideas for the future – watch out for it ahead …….
After the course, I headed towards Denver for my book tour. The tour got short, just one stop because we were late in the marketing.
Anyway I was to speak at the monthly meeting of the US-European network in Denver where SACCcolorado had the turn to arrange the program for March. That fitted well with my time in town. I came two days early and had a chance to walk a lot downtown Denver. It was such a nice place – I love the modern architecture with lots of glass side by side to old small houses.